What very very sad news, you must both be in shock. And it is true that sometimes things are happening around you so fast that there seems no chance to really make a considered decision. Fortunately, with an operation scheduled for 10th May, you do both have time to sit back a little, and you can of course ask that the operation is put back to enable you both to get to grips with what is happening. It is easy to feel caught up in the system with life seeming out of your control.
As you say, there is a wealth of information on the internet, a lot of which is not helpful and can be frightening. The most reliable websites in English are Cancer Research UK and Macmillan. Here:
Assuming that you are in the French health system, you are able to ask for a second opinion on treatment options and can request through your GP to see a specialist in the field, even if he/she is away from your area.
I don't know what your language skills are, but CSF can help you with language support if that is needed. I can also put you in touch with our trained volunteers who could give you an opportunity to talk things through. Let me know either by a post or send me a PM or e-mail.
Thinking of you both,
I have tried to send you a pm but it does not appear and I don't think that it has gone. My apologies if you get this twice !
Thank you very much for your reply. We are slightly less panic stricken today and the overwhelming majority of our friends seem to have convinced Liz that she must fight and that giving up is not an option at this stage.
We would very much like to talk this through with a trained person as it is all so strange at the moment.