Although I joined the forum in June, it's taken me all this time to find out how to post a new topic. So here goes.
My husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer a year ago - he's 56. He has hormone injections (Eligard) every 6 months and the cancer was metastatic (bones) when discovered, so there's no cure, only palliative treatment. I'd like to hear how other people - men & women - are dealing or have dealt with this particular situation. We have no idea how long the hormone treatment will keep the cancer at bay (neither do the doctors), although statistics usually say an average of 3 years and then it will be chemotherapy or similar. Apart from that, we are suffering as a couple, since hormone therapy is chemical castration, which means my husband's sex drive/libido is zero and this is permanent. There is no help through Viagra & Co because these only work if there is a "mechanical" problem - they require some kind of desire in the first place. The loss of a sex life would not be so tragic, if we managed some kind of closeness, tenderness. But that ability seems to have deserted us, too. If I try to hug him, he lets me, but there is no return and he never makes the first move. I feel rejected and we are both on edge all the time. Any ideas?